Sometimes, Barak has a hard day. A hard day means lots of counting, lots of misbehaving, lots of Imma mentally counting to ten, lots of time outs. At night, when I'm putting the kids to bed, I'll ask him if he had a good day or a hard day. Usually, even if he had a good day, he'll say he had a hard day. Then he'll sigh an age-old sigh and tell me wearily, "I don't like having a hard time."
Yeah, well, Imma doesn't like it either.
I could give a recap of the day, but I'd rather just let it be water under the bridge. Three and a half is the hardest, right? Right? Right? (Don't start telling me about the teenage years. I'm not even thinking about that yet.)
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Just repeat this mantra:
With boys, it's pay now; with girls, it's pay later.
You are currently paying now, which means that later (teenage years) will be a comparative breeze. Really. I think teenage boys are so much easier than teenage girls (says she who lived under a passel of teenage girls for more years than is reasonable).
I will very soon start paying later. Remembrance in your prayers is appreciated. ;-)
On the one hand, I'm not sure I'd agree about 3.5 being the worst, but I would venture that it's more child specific; my (ack!) almost 6 YO has been a daily test of my patience for the last year or so, interspersed with being a sweet, helpful child. At 3 and 4, he was fine - but he had big sibs, maybe it makes a difference.
A friend has a 4.5 YO who has spent his age 4 being similarly tested and then some, but he was fine at three.
On the other hand, either I can't recall anymore, or my oldest never really had such an age, so there's hope that Iyyar may not get there at all?
I have a feeling that you will wake up one day soon and find that it seems like you have a different, now delightful child. That was what happened to me with my son in the transition from 3.5 to 4 years old; it was like he changed overnight. My 4.5 year old is much easier now than when he was 3, mostly because the tantrums have significantly decreased. Now when he wants something, he sounds like a little lawyer or politican with elaborate reasons, counter arguments to every excuse I can find, and willingness to make deals and compromises. Although now it can take a long time to negiotiate with him, I much prefer this to a tantrum.
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