tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13294304.post2422261665257344398..comments2023-09-01T07:58:20.627-04:00Comments on Door number three, please.: and yesterdayuberimmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17241150570179494353noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13294304.post-70359852495367851362007-11-29T14:01:00.001-05:002007-11-29T14:01:00.001-05:00We have a similar "Mommy does not understand whini...We have a similar "Mommy does not understand whining" rule. A request gets addressed, as long as it isn't whined the first time. Too many repetitions, or ANY whining repetitions, get met by, "I'm sorry, Mommy doesn't understand whining. Did you want to ask/tell me something?"<BR/><BR/>I don't remember how well it worked at 3, but by now, the oldest (10) doesn't whine, and the 8 YO knows the blank (huh, what?)look I get, and starts over nicely before I can remind her. It definitely helps to have started early.LChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16628546442999250169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13294304.post-68470470688854629232007-11-29T14:01:00.000-05:002007-11-29T14:01:00.000-05:00We have a similar "Mommy does not understand whini...We have a similar "Mommy does not understand whining" rule. A request gets addressed, as long as it isn't whined the first time. Too many repetitions, or ANY whining repetitions, get met by, "I'm sorry, Mommy doesn't understand whining. Did you want to ask/tell me something?"<BR/><BR/>I don't remember how well it worked at 3, but by now, the oldest (10) doesn't whine, and the 8 YO knows the blank (huh, what?)look I get, and starts over nicely before I can remind her. It definitely helps to have started early.LChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16628546442999250169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13294304.post-85155898043283018142007-11-21T19:38:00.000-05:002007-11-21T19:38:00.000-05:00No, you're right, that would have been pretty mean...No, you're right, that would have been pretty mean. Since you did even look for it. It might work to head off future tantrums? I don't know where it is, but if you stop asking so many times, I'll keep looking for it, and if I find it later, I'll give it to you?<BR/><BR/>But sometimes (often?) 3 yr olds just can't get past the need to tantrum. Yesterday I found myself repeating "this too shall pass" under my breath... now I don't even remember which kid(s?) it was about!miriamphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14339767447913960853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13294304.post-51901281010962993062007-11-21T10:14:00.000-05:002007-11-21T10:14:00.000-05:00Well, I really couldn't find it for most of the ti...Well, I really couldn't find it for most of the time. My husband had looked and couldn't find it, and then I looked and couldn't find it. I explained to him that I couldn't find it, etc. Then, forty minutes later, I saw it, and since he was STILL wailing for it I didn't think it would be a good lesson for it to magically appear (and thought it would be downright mean at that point to say something that would sound to him like "Oh hey, I found it, but I'm still not giving it to you!")uberimmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17241150570179494353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13294304.post-74342697655060811752007-11-21T10:10:00.000-05:002007-11-21T10:10:00.000-05:00We have a "you asked too many times" rule. If you...We have a "you asked too many times" rule. If you keep nagging, you get told, "oops, you asked too many times. Now I can't give it to you." It evolved from a toddler asking three or more times before I could even open my mouth to answer, but it works pretty well in general. Saying "you asked too many times" gets me an immediate apology (from the 3 and 4 yr olds) and then a brief spate of no asking. Then sometimes it starts right back up, and sometimes they remember and only ask once the next time. (And then switch to "did you hear me?" if I don't immediately answer.)<BR/><BR/>In such a case, there would maybe have been an opportunity to give him one of the other books after an apology, some time, and one more nice question, say.<BR/><BR/>So if you think it would work for you, you can adopt/adapt our "asked too many times" rule. Otherwise, my sympathies, as the fellow mother of a 3 yr old.miriamphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14339767447913960853noreply@blogger.com